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Lost Connections

Invisible threads are the strongest ties.
—Friedrich Nietzsche

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Sometimes in life, it’s the smallest connection that ends up standing the test of time. Whether it be a conversation on an elevator or just the simple exchange of smiles between strangers. You never know when you will truly connect with a person—building an unbreakable bond out of nothing more than a shared moment in time.

These seemingly inconsequential moments in one’s life occur every day, yet we never really stop to think about the lasting impact many of them have on us. You see, we are all strangers until we aren’t. That sounds overly simplistic, but it’s the truth.

Often times it’s a small act which leads to friendships, relationships, or even two becoming enemies. Yet, these moments could so easily be missed. One unreciprocated “hello” or a decision to take the stairs instead of the elevator can be the difference in making a lifelong connection.

We never know the moments we miss; the lost love—our future spouses—or missed job opportunities. We can only ever know the moments that happen. Think about how different your life could be if you changed one tiny event. Maybe it’s something like choosing to work at a different place than you do now. Or you could have decided not to talk to the pretty girl working the cash register on a particular day.

These decisions—so small—so easy to overlook—they shape the course of our whole lives without so much as a second thought given by us. Time is so precious. And the things we do within this time directs the outcome of everything we ultimately do in this world.

Some of the people closest to us have entered our lives so unexpectedly, yet once they are there we are unable to imagine life without them. Strangely enough though, it’s these same people who sometimes drift away until they are gone. Then we are left wondering if they were ever really a part of our world in the first place.

Relationships between people come and go like waves through time. At one point in time we have no idea they exist. Then we meet them; make a connection. Now they are no longer strangers. We learn about them—share ideas with them—and eventually strengthen the bonds until they are as deeply rooted in our lives as we are in theirs. Then, sometimes, they are just gone.

Times uncontrollable wave crashes against the shore of life. The person we thought we could never live without leaves us—or we leave them. Maybe they pass into the next life, and we are unable to reconnect. Or, what is much sadder, they are still a member of this world, but we just don’t reconnect.

Have you ever passed a stranger in the street, exchanging slight glances, and you both know how important the other person once was to you—but now they don’t exist to you at all. So you feel as if you cannot speak to or acknowledge them? Why do we do this?

It’s not always bad blood or hurt feelings that leads to this. Sometimes life just changes. We drift deeper into our own worlds and away from that of theirs. But for some reason, once a person is completely out of the others world they feel as if they can never return. How bizarre human nature is.

There isn’t anything wrong with drifting apart; relationships crumble. They end and sometimes that’s okay. We all find ourselves reaching different points in our own lives. Points that are vastly different from where someone else might be. But that doesn’t mean you can’t enjoy the memories of times shared together. You can love somebody for life without ever seeing them again. You can appreciate a moment without feeling the need to have a connection with the person you shared the memory with. And that’s okay.

We all drift through this world at our own pace. If we’re lucky enough, we manage to link ourselves with another for a period of time; drifting through time and space together. You can let go of these people, as they can do the same to you at any time. Or you can stay linked together, drifting through this life to the very end. Either way, the most important thing to do is enjoy the journey.

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