We’re all getting older. There’s no two-ways about it; I turned 30 last November. And even though I still have the maturity level of a 14-year-old at times, I have more responsibilities than ever before. But for the first time in my life, I can honestly say I don’t feel the stress of life crushing my spirit nearly as much as I did when I was in my 20s.
When you get older you start to take stock of the important things in your life. You realize being healthy interest you more than going to the bar every weekend. You start to understand how saving for retirement is more important than the instant gratification you get from impulsively buying useless junk online. And you learn that steady relationships with a few people are more rewarding than being popular with a bunch of not-so-good ‘friends.’
Since I’m only 30 myself, I obviously haven’t lived the decade to tell you from personal experience how to make your 30s amazing. But I’ve done my research and listened to many people who have lived through their 30s.
A lot of great advice has come through via various articles and talking with people, and I’d like to share with you what I’ve learned. Some things are obvious—some not so much. But this list is made up of what has been most consistently stated among people.
Here are the 10 ways to make life in your 30s amazing.
1. Don’t Put It Off, Focus On Your Health Now
Health issues become a major problem for us as we get older—and a lot of this is due to the fact we tend to not focus on being healthy until we become uncomfortably unhealthy. Meaning we don’t concentrate on our health until it’s something we MUST deal with.
Preventative maintenance is something we all need to do—even though it can be daunting or miserable at times. I mean, watching TV and eating a bowl of ice cream is a much better time than running on the treadmill and eating steamed vegetables afterwards.
The problem is, these bad habits will degrade our bodies over time. Nobody wakes up one morning and is suddenly obese with bad knees and a bum ticker. This breakdown of our bodies is due to the accumulative abuse we put on them throughout the years.
This is why you need to get on top of things right away. And your 30s is the perfect time to start because it’s when your metabolism starts to slow down and the wear and tear on your body starts to add up. You aren’t in your 20s anymore and your body won’t rebound as quickly from a weekend drinking binge or the pain caused from a sedentary lifestyle. So, get active and eat better folks! You can still cheat on your diet every once in awhile, but long gone are the days of chicken wings and beer for lunch.
2. Treat Yourself Better
In your 20s you tend to worry more about other people than you do yourself. You neglect the things that make you happy and try to attain that happiness from others. This isn’t the best way to go about things and is something you should change. Instead of focusing on what others think of you and how they can make you happy, focus on making yourself happy.
Treat yourself better and learn to respect yourself more. Don’t be afraid to be a little selfish and treat yourself to things you enjoy. You don’t have to ignore everyone else’s happiness in lieu of your own, but you should learn how to be content with yourself. And for the love of all that is holy, stop beating yourself up over trivial matters. You have one life; enjoy it!
3. Treat The People You Care About Better
While you should treat yourself better and be a little more selfish in that regard, you should also treat the people you really care about better. This isn’t the same as finding happiness through other people. Rather, this means you stop taking your relationships for granted.
It’s not just romantic relationships, either. How many friends or family members do you keep on the back-burner? You know what I mean. Like a hack comedian’s old joke, “When’s the last time you called your mother?” We all have people who we still want in our lives but don’t actually put any effort into seeing or talking to them. That needs to change. You either cut people out of your life or treat them like they actually matter to you. Which segues nicely into the next entry.
4. Ditch The People Who Don’t Treat You Well
We spend a lot of our lives focusing on the wrong people. Some people only come around when they need money or favors. Some only want to do bad things and will treat us badly if we don’t go along with them. Some even act like they truly care about us but act completely different when we aren’t around.
It goes back to the old adage: if you’re an alcoholic and quit drinking, how many friends do you have left? Meaning, if you try bettering yourself and they aren’t, will they still care about you? You must get rid of the negative people in your life. If they aren’t giving just as much as you are to the relationship, they aren’t worth your time and effort. And remember, time is the most valuable thing in your life because once it’s gone, you never get it back. Spend it with people who really matter.
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