If your problem is with another person or people, talk things out. This is especially important in developing healthy relationships. You can’t let issues linger and expect them to just go away on their own. You must take the first steps and open a healthy dialogue about what’s bothering you or what’s wrong.
A lack of communication is the source of most problems in relationships. Men are the worst at this because we hate expressing our feelings. We prefer to let things go and not think about them again. Sometimes this is okay (like forgetting about a petty argument), but usually not. Especially when dealing with other people. Don’t be afraid to share your problems with someone. They’ll appreciate the honesty. And if they don’t, that’s their issue.
If your problems are less personal and more real world issues, making plans or goals is the best way to solve them. Hate you job? Figure out what you need to do to get a better one. Don’t settle in at the place you hate and complain everyday about how much it sucks. That doesn’t helping anything. And definitely don’t quit your job on a whim. That only creates more problems for yourself.
It’s important to take the proper steps to solve problems. You can’t skip steps and expect things to just work out. For instance, if you need to lose weight for health reasons, you can’t do a crash diet and think that’ll fix everything. You need to figure out why you’re overweight to begin with and decide on the proper steps to lose weight in a healthy, long-lasting manner.
Get To The Root Of The Problem
You can’t fix your problems if you only focus on the superficial aspects of them. Using weight loss as an example again, you can implement diet and exercise to lose weight. That’s the simple approach. But that’s not necessarily addressing the root of the problem.
If you’re really overweight, it might be because you eat too much and don’t exercise enough. But, and this is the case with most people, there are underlying issues you’re not dealing with. The same goes for many cases of depression, anxiety, and stress. Maybe you overeat because you had a bad childhood you never dealt with. Perhaps your depression stems from how unfulfilled you are with your day-to-day life. It could be you’re stress levels are so high because you work too much and don’t spend enough time on yourself.
We all have problems. Unfortunately, we don’t always tend to go about fixing them in the healthiest ways. It’s easier to try to forget about them through things like booze, but that won’t solve anything—it won’t lift that veil of anxiety, depression, or stress off you.
You must realize nothing in this world is perfect. A problem is only a problem until you fix it. It can only lurk in the dark if you never bring it to light. If you want to live a better life, address your problems. No matter how big or small, don’t let these things fester. Trust me, life will be much better if you learn how to deal. To end this, I’ll leave you with this cool lecture from the one and only Alan Watts.
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